uppityfemale: peachydefector: I mean part of…



I mean part of me is just angry at how wrong this is but the other part of me feels bad for you because you’ve obviously never had sex with a decent person.

Aww, it’s really sweet you want to make this all about me. Thanks.

I can also see your line of logic perfectly.

I recognize a flaw in the way women have to behave in many cases to avoid intimacy with a man… Therefore none of my sexual encounters have been with decent people.

It’s the magic bullet of anti-feminism.

Some of the people I’ve slept with have turned out to be crappy people. Some are great people. Doesn’t make the fact that women don’t have privilege because they “get to” fake being ill to have their ‘no’ taken seriously.

Using this line of argument, by a woman, to get out of sex suggests that the two people are close, familiar, and probably in a relationship.

The guy thinks he’s just convincing his girl friend/wife that she really wants to fool around and needs a reason HE finds satisfactory to stop his pursuit.
Women are usually conditioned to not be aggressive and to not hurt men’s feelings so they passively lie about why they don’t want to.

It seems benign but it really outlines a deeper issue of how society trains and expects men and women to behave.

That a woman can’t just say no…. She has to have a good enough reason for her no to be accepted.

I also don’t think every guy who has had this line used against him is a bad person, a horrible person, a disrespectful person. Just a person who needs to be reminded that women don’t owe you sex unless medically unable to do so.

The main problem with the original photo I posted was that someone out there thinks women having to come up with excuses or headaches or anything else to avoid sex they don’t want (even with someone they love) is a privilege.

The main problem with your response is you have to attack me personally, about my sexual history, to try and make your point.

Sometimes we need refreshers….